I said this to one of my client's the other day, and she said that it really helped her keep moving, despite all the difficulties that had occurred throughout her week. This sort of thing is really easy to say, and really easy to say to someone else; but when met with the task of keeping on, I found it much harder to actually do than say.
Strangely enough, I felt a sense of unease...a level of stress that comes along, every now and then. However, I was met with a revelation. I could continue to wallow in self pity, and stay where I was, or keep moving forward, and try to find solutions to the problems at hand. And make no mistake about it...solutions to these problems are often not easy to find, and sometimes the solutions you find are not the ones you were hoping for. As a result, this can further add to an already frustrating circumstance.
Despite all this, you can't lose sight of faith and hope. If you don't have either of these things, then guess what? Your life will likely stay...hopeless and faithless. Sounds awfully difficult, doesn't it? The alternative? Keep digging. Eventually, the solution you're looking for could be closer than you think. It may take you a few tries, and I'll even admit that there are a few problems that I have yet to find the solutions for. But know this...I will keep trying to find what I need, because I have the faith the grain of a mustard seed that God will help me find the answers I'm looking for. It doesn't sounds like a whole lot of faith, but the funny thing is...far as I know...
...that's all I need.
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Tuesday, April 22, 2008
Friday, April 11, 2008
That's Not Fair!!
I've heard so many children say this over and over again. This course of thinking got me wondering:
Who told these children that life was fair to begin with?
Well, where does fairness come from? I suppose it comes from the idea that there is a sense of right and wrong. That much I suppose is reasonable. But that's about where it stops. See, somewhere along the line, someone told children this bizarre, idea:
"We are all unique and different, and yet we are all the same."
Huh? I don't get it. We're the same and different at the same time? Amazing!
What happens with this strange little white lie, is that children start to believe (and regretably some adults) that everyone is supposed to have the same stuff, so as a result, they start complaining to their parents about what they don't have, because their friends have (place newest, coolest item here), and they don't. Somewhere they got this idea that because the world is fair, they should have those things too. And this idea of fairness comes from the idea that we are all the same, and thus, all should have the same.
But the reality is that we are not all the same, are we? What I try to do to help children is let them know that as much as being just like everyone else is so important, we fail to forget the first part, that "we are all unique." And if the world were really fair, who would determine said fairness? What is fair or just differs between people...another thing that makes us different.
If we start telling our children now that we are not all the same...that we are different in so many ways, and that people making different amounts of money based on education and talents is a good thing, then maybe, just maybe, they'll stop wanting to be like everyone else, and they may just want to make their own mark on the world...in their own unique way!
www.NewHopeCounselingOnline.com
Who told these children that life was fair to begin with?
Well, where does fairness come from? I suppose it comes from the idea that there is a sense of right and wrong. That much I suppose is reasonable. But that's about where it stops. See, somewhere along the line, someone told children this bizarre, idea:
"We are all unique and different, and yet we are all the same."
Huh? I don't get it. We're the same and different at the same time? Amazing!
What happens with this strange little white lie, is that children start to believe (and regretably some adults) that everyone is supposed to have the same stuff, so as a result, they start complaining to their parents about what they don't have, because their friends have (place newest, coolest item here), and they don't. Somewhere they got this idea that because the world is fair, they should have those things too. And this idea of fairness comes from the idea that we are all the same, and thus, all should have the same.
But the reality is that we are not all the same, are we? What I try to do to help children is let them know that as much as being just like everyone else is so important, we fail to forget the first part, that "we are all unique." And if the world were really fair, who would determine said fairness? What is fair or just differs between people...another thing that makes us different.
If we start telling our children now that we are not all the same...that we are different in so many ways, and that people making different amounts of money based on education and talents is a good thing, then maybe, just maybe, they'll stop wanting to be like everyone else, and they may just want to make their own mark on the world...in their own unique way!
www.NewHopeCounselingOnline.com
Sunday, April 6, 2008
Taking Time Out
One of the best commercials I've seen in a long time is this IKEA commercial:
One of the great things about it is that when we think about "time outs" they are generally in negative terms. But here we have a mother setting up a sanctuary for herself, and going there when things get out of control. Now granted, its unrealistic to think you can leave misbehaving children alone by themselves for a few minutes, but the carryover translation is that she decided to take time for herself when things got chaotic.
My wife and I had a really rough last week, and usually we take the weekend to finish any unfinished chores that don't get done. But we realized that we just needed some time to recharge our batteries and put the past week behind us. So we took some time to just relax, and I was suprised at how much it helped. By Sonday morning, I was making pancakes for breakfast (I usually can't stand cooking on weekends) walking the dog, running errands, humming a tune all along.
I guess what I'm trying to say is, sometimes when you have a rough time, its good to just take a moment or two to get away and just be who you are. We all have responsibilities, but if you can't take the time to enjoy what you work so hard for, then the purpose of working gets lost along the way.
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One of the great things about it is that when we think about "time outs" they are generally in negative terms. But here we have a mother setting up a sanctuary for herself, and going there when things get out of control. Now granted, its unrealistic to think you can leave misbehaving children alone by themselves for a few minutes, but the carryover translation is that she decided to take time for herself when things got chaotic.
My wife and I had a really rough last week, and usually we take the weekend to finish any unfinished chores that don't get done. But we realized that we just needed some time to recharge our batteries and put the past week behind us. So we took some time to just relax, and I was suprised at how much it helped. By Sonday morning, I was making pancakes for breakfast (I usually can't stand cooking on weekends) walking the dog, running errands, humming a tune all along.
I guess what I'm trying to say is, sometimes when you have a rough time, its good to just take a moment or two to get away and just be who you are. We all have responsibilities, but if you can't take the time to enjoy what you work so hard for, then the purpose of working gets lost along the way.
www.NewHopeCounselingOnline.com
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